Weaning

This article is an excerpt from "The Nursing Mother's Problem Solver"
by Claire Martin.

You thought it was tough to establish breastfeeding? Brace yourself for weaning!
It's usually long, slow, and wearing physically and emotionally.

Gradual weaning is best for you and for your baby. Dropping only one feeding every
week or so means that you'll be less susceptible to engorged breasts and possible
inflammation. It's easier on the baby, too-less stressful and traumatic. Before
you start, stock up on nursing pads-many women leak when they're weaning-and don't
plan on wearing silk blouses or anything else that stains easily. Loose shirts and
big button-front vests or cardigan sweaters are good camouflage when you're weaning.

Start by eliminating one feeding session, and then, after a week or so, dropping
another one. If your baby is especially reluctant to wean, you may need to drop
one feeding session in 48 hours (rather than one feed in 24 hours). It may take
longer to wean, but it will be easier on both of you.

For the first cut, choose a feeding session that can be bypassed as painlessly as
possible. Most babies want to hang onto the nursing sessions associated with bedtime-the
day's first feeding, naptime feeding, and bedtime.

You can eliminate some feedings without completely weaning if you'd prefer not to
go cold turkey just yet. You can usually keep one or two nursing sessions a day,
even after cutting out the rest.

If you do want to totally wean, and your baby is under a year old, you'll need to
find a brand of formula that your baby will take. If you have a friend whose baby
uses formula, ask for a couple of tablespoons' worth, and see if your baby likes
it. If you don't know any formula users, buy the smallest unit on the shelf-it's
cheaper to buy formula in bulk, but it's a waste of powder and money if your baby
doesn't like that brand.

When you begin dropping nursing sessions, replace that time with another kind of
cuddling or special time. Instead of regarding weaning as something to deny your
child, think of it as a time to expand your child's horizons by offering new tastes
and foods and customs. Instead of hurrying the process, let it take its own pace,
and the transition will be easier on you both.

There's more to breastfeeding than nutrition: It represents love, comfort, trust,
attachment. Try keeping a stack of picture books near the rocker, so you can find
a new use together for a favorite chair. It's a good idea to cuddle in a position
that's different from the one you typically used for nursing-e.g., holding your
child facing away from your chest as you read a picture book together, or balancing
her on your feet or legs to play airplane.

Don't be surprised if your baby, unprompted, starts ignoring customary nursing sessions
once you've begun weaning. Many babies and toddlers self-wean. Your little one may
nurse twice one day, and once the next, and want to nurse twice again the day after
that. She may give you her signal that she wants to nurse, but then squirm off your
lap as you start to pull up your shirt.

You may notice that you're feeling discouraged, sad, or distracted during the weaning
period. It's not unusual to be a little depressed. Your body is going through hormonal
changes again. Weaning can be painful, physically and psychologically. After all,
this is one sign that your baby is growing up and that you won't always be the center
of his universe. Try collaborating on a memento of this time together by making
palm prints or foot-prints-yours alongside his.

The flavor of your milk will change as you wean. It may taste salty or even a little
sour.

It may take a while for your milk to dry up. It's not unusual to continue lactating
for several months or more than a year after weaning.